This is not a joke, it is not hysterical exaggeration, it is real.
Again, linked to from other blogs. This totally pisses me off. I know perfectly normal British people as well as Canadians who live in fear of deportation, let alone one who was actually deported, who wanted nothing more than to be a productive American citizen – but couldn’t get a chance due to our immigration laws favoring anyone from a country not of Western European stock.
Hey President Trump! Hey AG Sessions! Why is this guy not being deported already???? He’s been here for 16 YEARS illegally! He’s a felon and he isn’t ours, send him home where he belongs! If his wife wants to stay with him she’s welcome to go live with him in his OWN COUNTRY.
And it’s two women who posit this with much in terms of circumstantial evidence.
I came to this article via a round about clicking of links on various other sites; I think this is logical and believable.
My major issue with patriarchy is that men do not police themselves when it comes to abusive behavior toward their women. I would be perfectly happy to have been a home maker had things turned out differently for me. I was not happy to be abused and taken advantage of when I was, however. If other men had come to my (then) husband and confronted him about his behavior, forcing him to behave in a more loving and respectful manner to the mother of his children, things might have turned out very differently. For all of us.
ETA I’m including a link regarding this very subject to a post I wrote several years ago
If data about us, ourselves, does not belong to us absolutely, then we are all slaves. Permanently. With no option for buyout.
Given the fact that the CDC isn’t a government agency, it’s funded in large part by the pharmaceutical companies, and the fact that the science is corrupted by the fact that the pharmaceutical companies pay for the research, I don’t have a problem with this. When the pharmaceutical companies get out of the research business, and when the revolving door between the CDC and the pharmaceutical companies gets permanently shut, I’ll believe what they publish. I realized about half way through my bachelor’s program that if I wanted to know the results of a study all I had to do was look at who funded it.
When the CDC is sets the guidelines for the vaccination schedule – and states use the vaccination schedule to make not only policy, but law – and the CDC makes money from every vaccine sold, there is a captive market of tens of millions of people that are at risk. The pharmaceutical companies have ZERO liability for the safety of their product in this particular case. How is that evidence based? Show me the double blind studies? You can’t. Because there aren’t any.
It’s the same for pharmaceuticals. LDL for instance has NEVER. EVER. Been shown to have any link with heart attack or stroke risk. NONE. People with high LDL, people with low LDL, and people with normal LDL all have heart attacks at about the same rate, as far as I can tell. Yet statins are pushed on everyone with an LDL over 100. Why? Why would you push a drug on someone that’s been shown, over time, to raise your risk for type II diabetes? for dementia? For sexual problems? For osteoporosis? Because pharmaceutical companies make a lot of money from statins. And because they fund their own research. And they fund the CDC. And they make the guidelines.
Triglycerides have a LOT to do with heart disease risk. And stroke risk. And type II diabetes risk. But if they treat triglycerides at all (which BTW are best treated with diet and lifestyle, not drugs) – if they even had drugs for that which they don’t, not really – they would lose out on drug sales for that same diabetes. Why would you treat triglycerides when you can treat something that doesn’t have any effect on the problem and in 5 years that same patient will now have two diseases you can sell them drugs for?
No, I’m totally good with this. When pharmaceutical companies quit funding nursing schools, medical schools, the agencies that make the guidelines (which aren’t voluntary at all, I might add) and quit gaming the system in their favor, I think we can go back to discussing evidence based.
Look. We all have anxiety, or the great majority of us do. Our society is a 24 hour society now, if you’re salaried your boss likely expects you to complete work however it must be done. If that means taking it home and working until midnight, then that’s what we are expected to do. If it means we are on call, that’s what we do. If it means we don’t take vacation because we might get overlooked for a promotion – or worse, laid off – if we do, then we work endlessly.
Some of us don’t call out even when we should, even when we’re potentially infecting others that can’t protect themselves from our illness. We can’t afford to.
We look around at our homes, which are not as clean as some of us would like, but we’re too tired in the time we have at home to do anything about it. We look at our neglected yards, and realize the same. If we even have a yard to worry about. Some of us are working 2 and 3 part time jobs and barely breaking even – because we can’t find a full time job.
We’re exhausted. We don’t exercise enough, or sometimes at all, because our jobs wear us out and we don’t get enough sleep, because we don’t exercise. It’s an endless feedback loop. Some of us awaken at night with anxiety about what the future might bring, even though we’re exhausted. We spend all too many hours on the computer – as a hiding place to avoid these issues – which causes disruptions in melantonin production and interferes with sleep. We stay up too late and we get up too early, always fatigued and wishing for just one more hour of sleep. We say yes to people when we should be saying no, because we worry about the future monetary situation if we don’t.
I’ve given all the reasons we have anxiety, but it doesn’t do any good to name the problem unless I offer solutions. So here are a few.
Turn the computer or your phone OFF. OFF. Like, totally. Set a time after which you will turn it off, unless you are on call, and realize that the world will go on without you for a time. If you give in and turn it back on, use the time it’s booting to think about whether you really want to get sucked into that morass again. If the answer is no, or you’re not sure, then don’t do it. There will always be tomorrow to get involved in that three ring circus again. Respect yourself enough now to turn it off.
Go for a walk if you can – if your neighborhood is too dangerous, then don’t do it there. Getting fresh air and being around trees and other plants is anxiety reducing. Go to a park if it’s safe, find some place you can safely enjoy a little nature. Even if that’s by walking in the landscaped area of an industrial park.
Dig a hole if you can. Then fill it back in. Or plant something, even better. Seeds are cheap and sometimes people will give them away. There are seed exchange websites and some libraries for seeds. Use your time on the computer to look for a few. Touching dirt actually causes markedly reduced stress and an increase in happiness because the natural soil bacteria and fungi secrete substances that are calming to the brain in that way. We absorb them through our skin, we breathe them in when we turn over the soil, and we help ourselves work through anxiety in this way. The physical exertion of digging a hole will use up all that excess energy that anxiety generates, giving it a physical outlet and dissipating it.
Time, there’s never enough time, right? Well there’s always time for the things we MAKE time for. Volunteer somewhere. Maybe a shelter, a nursing home, the food bank, the library, a hospital, even a church if you are so inclined, or an alternative spiritual center if you are not. Many places have a need for volunteer staff that goes chronically unfulfilled. Giving your time, even an hour a month, away to someone who needs it more than you do is anxiety reducing. Why? Because selflessness reduces anxiety. Giving of ourselves makes us happier. Human interaction – real human interaction, not FB interaction – reduces stress and increases happiness.
Read a book. No, it’s not like a kindle and it’s a little bulkier and harder to carry around, but the mind engages with an actual book in entirely different ways than it does when you are reading off a computer screen. This has been documented in studies. The physicality of an actual book can ground you and help reduce anxiety. You can rub the spine, you turn pages, the scent of the paper and the ink sometimes can be smelled. These are all physical cues that reduce anxiety. If it’s a good novel, you can be carried away to the land in the story and this prevents anxiety from even developing. When you return to the land of reality, you have a vicarious experience that you can retreat to in times of stress and use as an anchor point.
These are only a few things. Not everyone will be able to do them all, most people will be able to do one or two. Even people who are living on welfare and food stamps will be able to do at least some of these. Try one. You might find that not only have you reduced anxiety, you’ve increased happiness and created a better life for yourself.
Once again: I’m not a white nationalist. Not a white supremacist. Not an alt-righter. More of a classical liberal, actually.
That being said, I am just in horrified shock at what took place this weekend.
Snyder vs Phelps 9-0 decision. HATE SPEECH IS PROTECTED.
Whether you believe those who were speaking at the Unite the Right rally were speaking hate speech, or you believe something else, they HAD AND HAVE THE RIGHT TO BE HEARD.
I will defend to the DEATH the right of a KKK member, or a National Socialist, or a Communist, to speak publicly and at length, on their views.
Free speech is free for all, or for no one.
This, from someone who’s not even American if I understand his location correctly. I am NOT alt right. I am NOT white nationalist. I DO support their right to peaceably assemble, to lawfully protest (which they did do, and the city ILLEGALLY REVOKED THEIR PERMIT AND SHUT THEM DOWN DURING THE RALLY). I will defend their right with my life if necessary. FREE SPEECH IS FOR EVERYONE OR FOR NO ONE.
White Nationalists marched on Charlottesville Virginia. For those who are even now preparing to defend White Nationalists as not being Nazis, and calling on all those who call them fascists as alarmists, I offer you the following photos of the marchers. Armed and proud to quote Adolf Hitler, the White Nationalist Nazis, raised on our […]
http://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/us_594c46e4e4b0da2c731a84df/amp The recent election has only emboldened these groups but, as the article I posted yesterday shows (https://facingthefireswithin.wordpress.com/2017/07/13/anti-semitism-and-white-supremacy/), they have been a major issue for a long time. I am rarely questioned, attacked or otherwise asked about these posts but I will take a moment and explain two reasons I write and post them: It […]
For many years I felt like I was an exhausted swimmer, thrashing about in a choppy ocean, trying to get to – somewhere – I wasn’t sure where.
I was, frankly, not a good wife to my first husband. This is both my fault and his. I was too young to really understand my role and importance; he was disappointed that I was too young (once he realized it was an issue) and punished everyone in the house for that.
I overcompensated drastically for that once I was divorced; I did everything I could to make sure I would NEVER have to depend on a man for ANYTHING again. I worked two jobs, sometimes three, to make sure I pulled my full weight (and that of my children) in any household budget where there were two adults. I sacrificed my children’s childhoods in doing so, but I did at least teach them a strong work ethic.
When I remarried I continued this pattern. And I began to really feel as though I was at sea with no life jacket.
When I came (back) to heathenry I began to feel that there was a place for a strong woman – but it wasn’t the one I was occupying. This made me very dissatisfied and made things worse, in a way, as I watched my partner unravel. I FINALLY knew what I wanted but I didn’t know how to get there.
I was wrong to coddle my man by always taking the brunt of things, by trying to do the job of two, by allowing him to isolate himself. I was wrong to think I *could* do the job of two without suffering consequences both in myself and in terms of my relationships.
I need a strong man that can hold me up when I’m weak, that can take up the slack, that can allow me to do my duties without doing his too. One that is strong enough to put up with a strong woman.
Maybe someday I can have that. And if not…well I guess it’s not in the cards. But I at least have a direction with my faith. And a hope that it can someday happen.
So maybe I don’t actually need one, but the ideal situation would be to have one. Marriage in the lore was an amazing partnership.